Be supportive, but somewhat strict.
Let her know that no self-destructive behavior will be tolerated. If she really wants to get clean, she will understand that you are doing that because you love her, and in the end it will work out.
Hope all goes well.My sister is an addict and she is coming to live with me...any advise?
You must tell her there will be no drugs or alcohol brought into your home. Why would you have her move in with you anyway. If she has no place else to go then you have to take a chance, but if there is any other place to go she should go there. She can sign herself into a drug rehabilitation home which would be for the best. Tell her when she arrives she needs to go get help before she moves in with you. Tell her you love her, but you have so much to lose.I wouldn't let her come into your home to live until she is clean. You know what will happen to you if you do drugs again, then you won't be able to help anyone including yourself. Think long and hard. That is why we co-dependent people need a lot of help especially with those we love. That is why it is called Tough Love.
Having lived with someone who was ';trying to recover'; before... Set your ground rules and stick to them. I shared a place with my step sister and her boyfriend..a nd I told them up front that if they fell off the wagon, I was leaving. Sure enough. they fell off the wagon. I moved out within the week. A down side to having drugies live with you, is that they steal your stuff, or their friends steal your stuff.
Put a lock on your bedroom door and make sure you always lock it and keep anything you dont want stolen in there. Video games, checks, electronics... LOCK THEM UP.
Set rules about who she brings over. Any friends with drug problems.. ban them. They will get her in trouble and they will mess things up for you.
If she slips up.. Dont coddle her. No second chances. Kick her out. Make her actually rely on herself. With my step sister, my parents kept coddling her, and even today shes 27 and they still provide for her and coddle her. She wont ever get better because she doesnt have to. They enable her. They always provide her with money or a place to stay or food or anhything she needs... So dont get caught up in that vicious cycle. In the end, its kinder to be stern.
three years is a big commitment well done for you
you should know then that every word that comes out of an addicts mouth is a lie
an addict cant love anyone other than their drug
addicts are users
addicts have ne remorse on using your heart strings which while they will cry and wail about dint feel it
if you depressed or have a fight or life dumps you and you go i cant stand this any more will you be able to resist?
its a huge risk if she doesn't want to give up too?
pay attention to her Friends
if they look like users they are
if she is with users she is using
you have to be hard and harsh with them
she gives up or moves out
i know you did it for love, but she doesn't love you she loves the drug
Maybe you should put her in a hotel or have her live with a different family member if there is one close in the area. She won't be mad at you for this if you sit down and explain exactly what you explained here. You need to help yourself maintain your sobriety, that's the most important thing at this time.
dont do it! make her go to rehab as soon as she gets off the bus it not yall mise well go together and do the drugs because she is just going to want and talk you into doing them agian. you shouldnt even be around someone like that, you have to worry about yourself you have a lot to loose dont do it
My advice would have been for her to go to rehab first. One way to break your sobriety is by being around others that do drugs, alcohol etc. It's really easy to get back into whatever your addiction was. Congratulations on your sobriety. Hopefully your sister will do the same.
just do what you can girl its your sister you must help her it may be hard but you will get there in the end i would do the same for any of my family well done x
You can't do what a professional can do. Don't let her stay at your house until she gets some help. She will only pull you down and you don't need that.
hide you money lol but umm its not that bad Living with an addict and if shes been off for 3 years it really shouldn't be difficult at all just dont encourage her to do anything she dont want to that has to do with whatever drug she was on
Well there has to be rules straight off. You know about drugs so dont let anything suspicious go, if it gets out of hand she must leave and go to a professional establishment to deal with this.
At the end of the day just offer her all your love and support and believe in her
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