How do you start over after eleven years of marriage. don't know where to begin. need advise!?

Well, you can go to a marriage counselor to understand your role in the failed marriage, and to get rid of your ';baggage';. You can also take some time to ';find yourself'; and not rush into another relationship or do the ';rebound thing';. It may feel like the end of the world for you and for that I am sorry for you. However, it is not the end of the world, and everyday from now on will remove a little of the hurt and loss you feel until you are ';healed'; from this emotional setback in your life. One day, you will know when its time to find another mate. There is someone out there in that crazy world of ours that will be looking for you when the time is right. Good luck to you and keep your chin up.How do you start over after eleven years of marriage. don't know where to begin. need advise!?
If you are not divorced but thinking about it,get counseling for your marriage first.If you are divorced and are angry or still love her .as the lady said above don't fish for another too soon .Rebounding is bad and it starts not with your new relationship but with sharring your baggage


and a lot of intimate sharing of it.How do you start over after eleven years of marriage. don't know where to begin. need advise!?
I did it after 24 yrs, so you can too.


Focus on yourself--you probably gave too much in your marriage, now just enjoy!


I read all the time, I only cooked if I WANTED to, and I got to choose christmas trees I WANTED to choose!


I watched what I wanted on TV (I rarely turned it on), I enjoyed the silence and solitude, I stayed up as late as I wanted, or went to bed early...I bought what I wanted, and didn't have to debate it. I could wake up crabby, and be that way all damn day!





Gosh, hon...you can do what YOU want, so love every day!


God bless, %26amp; good luck!
Try to connect with your friends, especially any that are still single. Start doing things for you, meaning go to the gym and get in better shape than you are - feel good about yourself. Invest $$$ into yourself. get some youth back. Moving back to the single life is a transition that will take time. I was in the same boat as you. You are starting fresh...maybe get a new wardrobe too.
You begin with YOU! What do you want to do with your life? Where do you want to be? How do you want to spend your day? Now is the perfect time for YOU to focus on YOU! Get healthy, both physically and mentally, get happy within yourself, and get ready! Get ready for a whole world that's out there just waiting for you! Waiting for you to decide what you want it to be and ready to be exactly that! It's all about YOU now. Enjoy!
you take a deep breath and take one step at a time. if you are ready to move on and live a little then tell family and friends. let them know you want to get out more. also tell them whether or not you are ready to date. people who are attached seem to think single people have a target on their backs and unless you are ready you need to let them know you don't want to be set up with anyone
head to the nearest watering hole and get busy.





Unless, you've gone blind in the past 11 years, you know what looks good. Start there. Find one that looks good and if she or he can carry a conversation or give good head, you're 1/2 way there.





Enjoy yourself. Trial and Error should be a national pasttime.
It's not easy, but it ain't over. There is actually plenty of woman out there that still now how to be woman. As for the rest well just use and abuse. Eventually a keeper will come around. Then respect, Love, and cherish.
start over? are you still with your wife or are you now alone?
the same way you found your last rommance, but don't compare to the last