My husband just moved to evening shift and I work days. I have a 5 year old and a 7 year old and a 2 month old. After I had my youngest I wan on pain meds and I found that when I would take them they would give me a burst of energy and I would be able to clean house and become supermom. I was able to enjoy spending time with my children without feeling so stressed being the only parent and when I wouldn't take them I was so exhausted and it was hard to get anything done. I ran out and dealt with it and then my husband got some for an earache and I started taking them again. I am almost out and I don't want to have to take them to feel like I have more energy. It's not the high feeling that I am addicted too, it is the energy that it gives me. I am wondering if anyone knows of a safer way for me to get this energy or if anyone has been in my situation and what they did to help them.May be addicted to pain meds need advise?
Yes, you are addicted. No, there isn't anything you can take to get that feeling. You aren't supposed to feel great all the time. That's life. What you have with those pills is unnatural.
You can never take narcotics again. You need to tell your doctor that you're an addict. Believe me, you will ALWAYS find some reason to need a prescription and before you know it, you'll be doing ANYTHING to get them.May be addicted to pain meds need advise?
What bmac said is true. I work in medicine, and you don't know how many people I see all the time that are drug seekers. The best thing you can do is to talk to someone about getting off of them. It's going to be hard, I'm not going to lie to you, but it will be worth it. Your kids will benefit if nothing else. You may think that they give you energy and you are a better person on them, but they have side effects, and some you may not be seeing. There are things that will help with energy, but you won't get the same feeling you got with the meds. You need to work on your health, mental as well as physical. You can try changing your diet and exercising. This can give you a lot of energy.
Talk to someone now!! If not for you, for your kids. Good luck and I wish you the best!!!
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
My sister is an addict and she is coming to live with me...any advise?
Did I mention that I am in recovery and have been clean for 3 years on May 6! I really want to help her and I really believe she is ready to help herself...I just have so much to lose! She already has her bus ticket and will be here on Thursday...I just would like to know if anyone has any encouraging words or any advise for me?My sister is an addict and she is coming to live with me...any advise?
Be supportive, but somewhat strict.
Let her know that no self-destructive behavior will be tolerated. If she really wants to get clean, she will understand that you are doing that because you love her, and in the end it will work out.
Hope all goes well.My sister is an addict and she is coming to live with me...any advise?
You must tell her there will be no drugs or alcohol brought into your home. Why would you have her move in with you anyway. If she has no place else to go then you have to take a chance, but if there is any other place to go she should go there. She can sign herself into a drug rehabilitation home which would be for the best. Tell her when she arrives she needs to go get help before she moves in with you. Tell her you love her, but you have so much to lose.I wouldn't let her come into your home to live until she is clean. You know what will happen to you if you do drugs again, then you won't be able to help anyone including yourself. Think long and hard. That is why we co-dependent people need a lot of help especially with those we love. That is why it is called Tough Love.
Having lived with someone who was ';trying to recover'; before... Set your ground rules and stick to them. I shared a place with my step sister and her boyfriend..a nd I told them up front that if they fell off the wagon, I was leaving. Sure enough. they fell off the wagon. I moved out within the week. A down side to having drugies live with you, is that they steal your stuff, or their friends steal your stuff.
Put a lock on your bedroom door and make sure you always lock it and keep anything you dont want stolen in there. Video games, checks, electronics... LOCK THEM UP.
Set rules about who she brings over. Any friends with drug problems.. ban them. They will get her in trouble and they will mess things up for you.
If she slips up.. Dont coddle her. No second chances. Kick her out. Make her actually rely on herself. With my step sister, my parents kept coddling her, and even today shes 27 and they still provide for her and coddle her. She wont ever get better because she doesnt have to. They enable her. They always provide her with money or a place to stay or food or anhything she needs... So dont get caught up in that vicious cycle. In the end, its kinder to be stern.
three years is a big commitment well done for you
you should know then that every word that comes out of an addicts mouth is a lie
an addict cant love anyone other than their drug
addicts are users
addicts have ne remorse on using your heart strings which while they will cry and wail about dint feel it
if you depressed or have a fight or life dumps you and you go i cant stand this any more will you be able to resist?
its a huge risk if she doesn't want to give up too?
pay attention to her Friends
if they look like users they are
if she is with users she is using
you have to be hard and harsh with them
she gives up or moves out
i know you did it for love, but she doesn't love you she loves the drug
Maybe you should put her in a hotel or have her live with a different family member if there is one close in the area. She won't be mad at you for this if you sit down and explain exactly what you explained here. You need to help yourself maintain your sobriety, that's the most important thing at this time.
dont do it! make her go to rehab as soon as she gets off the bus it not yall mise well go together and do the drugs because she is just going to want and talk you into doing them agian. you shouldnt even be around someone like that, you have to worry about yourself you have a lot to loose dont do it
My advice would have been for her to go to rehab first. One way to break your sobriety is by being around others that do drugs, alcohol etc. It's really easy to get back into whatever your addiction was. Congratulations on your sobriety. Hopefully your sister will do the same.
just do what you can girl its your sister you must help her it may be hard but you will get there in the end i would do the same for any of my family well done x
You can't do what a professional can do. Don't let her stay at your house until she gets some help. She will only pull you down and you don't need that.
hide you money lol but umm its not that bad Living with an addict and if shes been off for 3 years it really shouldn't be difficult at all just dont encourage her to do anything she dont want to that has to do with whatever drug she was on
Well there has to be rules straight off. You know about drugs so dont let anything suspicious go, if it gets out of hand she must leave and go to a professional establishment to deal with this.
At the end of the day just offer her all your love and support and believe in hereye shadow
Be supportive, but somewhat strict.
Let her know that no self-destructive behavior will be tolerated. If she really wants to get clean, she will understand that you are doing that because you love her, and in the end it will work out.
Hope all goes well.My sister is an addict and she is coming to live with me...any advise?
You must tell her there will be no drugs or alcohol brought into your home. Why would you have her move in with you anyway. If she has no place else to go then you have to take a chance, but if there is any other place to go she should go there. She can sign herself into a drug rehabilitation home which would be for the best. Tell her when she arrives she needs to go get help before she moves in with you. Tell her you love her, but you have so much to lose.I wouldn't let her come into your home to live until she is clean. You know what will happen to you if you do drugs again, then you won't be able to help anyone including yourself. Think long and hard. That is why we co-dependent people need a lot of help especially with those we love. That is why it is called Tough Love.
Having lived with someone who was ';trying to recover'; before... Set your ground rules and stick to them. I shared a place with my step sister and her boyfriend..a nd I told them up front that if they fell off the wagon, I was leaving. Sure enough. they fell off the wagon. I moved out within the week. A down side to having drugies live with you, is that they steal your stuff, or their friends steal your stuff.
Put a lock on your bedroom door and make sure you always lock it and keep anything you dont want stolen in there. Video games, checks, electronics... LOCK THEM UP.
Set rules about who she brings over. Any friends with drug problems.. ban them. They will get her in trouble and they will mess things up for you.
If she slips up.. Dont coddle her. No second chances. Kick her out. Make her actually rely on herself. With my step sister, my parents kept coddling her, and even today shes 27 and they still provide for her and coddle her. She wont ever get better because she doesnt have to. They enable her. They always provide her with money or a place to stay or food or anhything she needs... So dont get caught up in that vicious cycle. In the end, its kinder to be stern.
three years is a big commitment well done for you
you should know then that every word that comes out of an addicts mouth is a lie
an addict cant love anyone other than their drug
addicts are users
addicts have ne remorse on using your heart strings which while they will cry and wail about dint feel it
if you depressed or have a fight or life dumps you and you go i cant stand this any more will you be able to resist?
its a huge risk if she doesn't want to give up too?
pay attention to her Friends
if they look like users they are
if she is with users she is using
you have to be hard and harsh with them
she gives up or moves out
i know you did it for love, but she doesn't love you she loves the drug
Maybe you should put her in a hotel or have her live with a different family member if there is one close in the area. She won't be mad at you for this if you sit down and explain exactly what you explained here. You need to help yourself maintain your sobriety, that's the most important thing at this time.
dont do it! make her go to rehab as soon as she gets off the bus it not yall mise well go together and do the drugs because she is just going to want and talk you into doing them agian. you shouldnt even be around someone like that, you have to worry about yourself you have a lot to loose dont do it
My advice would have been for her to go to rehab first. One way to break your sobriety is by being around others that do drugs, alcohol etc. It's really easy to get back into whatever your addiction was. Congratulations on your sobriety. Hopefully your sister will do the same.
just do what you can girl its your sister you must help her it may be hard but you will get there in the end i would do the same for any of my family well done x
You can't do what a professional can do. Don't let her stay at your house until she gets some help. She will only pull you down and you don't need that.
hide you money lol but umm its not that bad Living with an addict and if shes been off for 3 years it really shouldn't be difficult at all just dont encourage her to do anything she dont want to that has to do with whatever drug she was on
Well there has to be rules straight off. You know about drugs so dont let anything suspicious go, if it gets out of hand she must leave and go to a professional establishment to deal with this.
At the end of the day just offer her all your love and support and believe in her
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Dogs and rabbits together? Is this smart, even possible without disaster? Anyone have experience/advise? ?
I have two bunnies and really want to have a dog as well. I have read up on it. People have been successful but say you can never leave them alone in the same room. I really want to add a dog to the family but I do not want to be constantly worried something may happen. Does anyone have any experience with this and could give me advise, etc? Thanks!Dogs and rabbits together? Is this smart, even possible without disaster? Anyone have experience/advise? ?
I brought a rabbit home to my dog Biscuit, who is a chihuahua/schnauzer mix. and they get along beautifully. They even chase each-other in the back yard. It's pretty funny to see a rabbit chase a dog...but it's cute. I started with holding the rabbit and introducing her to the dog and showed the dog that she was just as important and couldn't jump on her and such, and after only a few corrections Biscuit knows her limits. This might be a special case though since both my rabbit and the dog are about the same size...Dogs and rabbits together? Is this smart, even possible without disaster? Anyone have experience/advise? ?
If you are completely committed to properly training your dog (not the rabbits) then you may have great success having both species in your household.
Do be wise in choosing the breed of dog. You would not buy a bird dog if you had parrots. Don't buy a hunting breed. Remember that includes Terriers/Ratters, too.
I have a chihuahua who love rabbits - my dwarf breed rabbits are bigger than he is. My dog is well trained and obeys. No chance of rabbits getting harmed by him. I also have a Great Dane. She is another story. She has a strong prey drive. She has killed rabbits before. I've worked with her and supervised rabbit interaction for 2 1/2 years. Now, she guards them and I can't get her to eat rabbit meat. She won't even touch it.
My rabbits are not out all the time and I've always supervised their play time. Rabbits will become friends with anything that does not try to eat them - including dogs and cats. I think it is certainly possible for you to have both dogs and rabbits in your household - just be a responsible dog owner and put in the time required to make a great dog. I know many rabbit owners and most of them have dogs, too.
It seems possible - not with a dog like mine, god knows, but maybe with the right dog.
The only anecdote I have is a friend of mine had a dog %26amp; rabbit who got along, but the rabbit died of a heart attack (the vet thought) one time when the dog was chasing it. Which makes you wonder, was the rabbit scared of the dog, or did he think chasing was a fun game and he just got overstimulated?
This IS NOT a good idea, people may say im a bad pet owner for this, but i dont care as long as it stops any of your bunnies from getting hurt.
I once had my bunny out for some exercise, and my mom opened the door, and my dog ran in, and chased my rabbit! i almost had a heart attack, and if it wasnt for rabbits being so fast, my bunny would be dead right now.
so please DONT put your bunnies and your dogs together.
I guess it's all in the personality of the dog. I have one Labrador that I would trust him with any small pet I've had rats, mice,a wild baby bunny I raised, and ferrets around him, crawling on him, and he never once offered to snap or bit them. And I have another lab that sees those animals as food and I can't let him in the house. If I were you I would try to get a dog that is more of a herd dog instead of the hunting instinct he would have the herding instinct, second I would get it as a puppy and introduce them right away, third you would probably have to train the dog to not chase the bunnies or not to be to ruff.
we had both dogs and rabbits when i was a kid and they did just fine. the dog even cleaned up after the rabbit! gross, yes, but quite handy!
as long as you have a friendly dog, you shouldn't have any problems. we had a lab mix and a cocka-poo and they got along just fine. i'd only be worried about leaving them alone together if the dog was aggressive or overly strong. a pit bull, for example (no hate mail, please, i love pit bulls!!) may not be able to play gently enough and could probably hurt the rabbit. but, again, it depends on the dog's disposition and rearing. e.g., teaching your dog to rip apart stuffed toys is probably a bad idea in this context.
the only natural tendency you will have to really curb in your dog is the desire to chase your bunnies if they run. play-chase is okay (our rabbit loved it), but if the little guy really wants to get away or be alone, the dog needs to respect that. don't forget, too, that a bunny can do real damage with their back claws!
just use caution, common sense and keep an eye on them all until you are confident they're all happy.
best of luck to you!!!
I would think the only possibility would be if you raised the dog from a puppy around the rabbits? Still I'd think it's a little iffy.
But at the very least, the dog would get lots of exercise before he tasted the rabbit..
golden retrievers r real friendly w/rabbits %26amp; can even b alone w/them all the time. idk bout any other breed but as long as theyr brought up 2gether they dont really hav a problem.
I had a bunny and a little dog.
They didn't mind eachother at all.
how big a dog?
I brought a rabbit home to my dog Biscuit, who is a chihuahua/schnauzer mix. and they get along beautifully. They even chase each-other in the back yard. It's pretty funny to see a rabbit chase a dog...but it's cute. I started with holding the rabbit and introducing her to the dog and showed the dog that she was just as important and couldn't jump on her and such, and after only a few corrections Biscuit knows her limits. This might be a special case though since both my rabbit and the dog are about the same size...Dogs and rabbits together? Is this smart, even possible without disaster? Anyone have experience/advise? ?
If you are completely committed to properly training your dog (not the rabbits) then you may have great success having both species in your household.
Do be wise in choosing the breed of dog. You would not buy a bird dog if you had parrots. Don't buy a hunting breed. Remember that includes Terriers/Ratters, too.
I have a chihuahua who love rabbits - my dwarf breed rabbits are bigger than he is. My dog is well trained and obeys. No chance of rabbits getting harmed by him. I also have a Great Dane. She is another story. She has a strong prey drive. She has killed rabbits before. I've worked with her and supervised rabbit interaction for 2 1/2 years. Now, she guards them and I can't get her to eat rabbit meat. She won't even touch it.
My rabbits are not out all the time and I've always supervised their play time. Rabbits will become friends with anything that does not try to eat them - including dogs and cats. I think it is certainly possible for you to have both dogs and rabbits in your household - just be a responsible dog owner and put in the time required to make a great dog. I know many rabbit owners and most of them have dogs, too.
It seems possible - not with a dog like mine, god knows, but maybe with the right dog.
The only anecdote I have is a friend of mine had a dog %26amp; rabbit who got along, but the rabbit died of a heart attack (the vet thought) one time when the dog was chasing it. Which makes you wonder, was the rabbit scared of the dog, or did he think chasing was a fun game and he just got overstimulated?
This IS NOT a good idea, people may say im a bad pet owner for this, but i dont care as long as it stops any of your bunnies from getting hurt.
I once had my bunny out for some exercise, and my mom opened the door, and my dog ran in, and chased my rabbit! i almost had a heart attack, and if it wasnt for rabbits being so fast, my bunny would be dead right now.
so please DONT put your bunnies and your dogs together.
I guess it's all in the personality of the dog. I have one Labrador that I would trust him with any small pet I've had rats, mice,a wild baby bunny I raised, and ferrets around him, crawling on him, and he never once offered to snap or bit them. And I have another lab that sees those animals as food and I can't let him in the house. If I were you I would try to get a dog that is more of a herd dog instead of the hunting instinct he would have the herding instinct, second I would get it as a puppy and introduce them right away, third you would probably have to train the dog to not chase the bunnies or not to be to ruff.
we had both dogs and rabbits when i was a kid and they did just fine. the dog even cleaned up after the rabbit! gross, yes, but quite handy!
as long as you have a friendly dog, you shouldn't have any problems. we had a lab mix and a cocka-poo and they got along just fine. i'd only be worried about leaving them alone together if the dog was aggressive or overly strong. a pit bull, for example (no hate mail, please, i love pit bulls!!) may not be able to play gently enough and could probably hurt the rabbit. but, again, it depends on the dog's disposition and rearing. e.g., teaching your dog to rip apart stuffed toys is probably a bad idea in this context.
the only natural tendency you will have to really curb in your dog is the desire to chase your bunnies if they run. play-chase is okay (our rabbit loved it), but if the little guy really wants to get away or be alone, the dog needs to respect that. don't forget, too, that a bunny can do real damage with their back claws!
just use caution, common sense and keep an eye on them all until you are confident they're all happy.
best of luck to you!!!
I would think the only possibility would be if you raised the dog from a puppy around the rabbits? Still I'd think it's a little iffy.
But at the very least, the dog would get lots of exercise before he tasted the rabbit..
golden retrievers r real friendly w/rabbits %26amp; can even b alone w/them all the time. idk bout any other breed but as long as theyr brought up 2gether they dont really hav a problem.
I had a bunny and a little dog.
They didn't mind eachother at all.
how big a dog?
Need to remove Malware Defender 2009 please advise me ?
Need to remove Malware Defender 2009 please advise me ?Need to remove Malware Defender 2009 please advise me ?
Malware Defender 2009 ( also known as MalwareDefender2009 ) is new rogue antispyware software that displays many fake warning alerts, messages and popups. It starts generating warning messages claiming system infection in order ...
http://www.removeonline.com/remove-malwa鈥?/a>Need to remove Malware Defender 2009 please advise me ?
Here's how I did it recently for a client:
1. Run msconfig from the run menu, select the ';services'; tab, tick the ';hide MS services'; box. Next click ';disable all services';, the remaining services will not be windows.
2. Go to the startup tab on that same menu, disable all, then close that menu.
3. Disable system restore, right click my computer, select properties, then system restore, disable.
4. Download malwarebytes, superantispyware, spybot search and destroy, and hijackthis, install them all.
5. Boot into safe mode, run full system scans with all above, for hijackthis follow the log analyzer and remove as directed.
6. Navigate to C:\Windows\System32\Drivers\etc, in this folder you'll see a file named hosts, delete it. Windows will rebuild it when you reboot.
7. Boot back to the desktop, you should be clean now so renable system restore.
Malware Defender 2009 ( also known as MalwareDefender2009 ) is new rogue antispyware software that displays many fake warning alerts, messages and popups. It starts generating warning messages claiming system infection in order ...
http://www.removeonline.com/remove-malwa鈥?/a>Need to remove Malware Defender 2009 please advise me ?
Here's how I did it recently for a client:
1. Run msconfig from the run menu, select the ';services'; tab, tick the ';hide MS services'; box. Next click ';disable all services';, the remaining services will not be windows.
2. Go to the startup tab on that same menu, disable all, then close that menu.
3. Disable system restore, right click my computer, select properties, then system restore, disable.
4. Download malwarebytes, superantispyware, spybot search and destroy, and hijackthis, install them all.
5. Boot into safe mode, run full system scans with all above, for hijackthis follow the log analyzer and remove as directed.
6. Navigate to C:\Windows\System32\Drivers\etc, in this folder you'll see a file named hosts, delete it. Windows will rebuild it when you reboot.
7. Boot back to the desktop, you should be clean now so renable system restore.
Monday, August 23, 2010
Can someone advise me about why there is a blank page between my header & footnote?
Please Help?? I am using the old yahoo e-mail because it is more convenient for me, as I am more familiar with it. Something is happening and I am at my wits end. This is one problem I have never had before. It shows that I have e-mail, but when I open them there is just a blank page between the user %26amp; sender addresses/Subject, and the footnote section. Just a blank page, not just on regular e-mail, but also on bulk mail. Does anyone have any advise that might be helpful. I am going nuts over this. This has happened several times this week. I don't know if it's something yahoo is doing, or what. Thanks for any help you might be able to give. By the way, I use windows vista basic. sweetmeanerCan someone advise me about why there is a blank page between my header %26amp; footnote?
Try Print copy = It will show the message.
OR Click Reply button to the message. Then when read click the back button.
OR Put the message in Word or Excell and read it.
OR = Select any email where the header information is displayed, but there is nothing in the
';body'; of the message where you would expect to find text, etc.
Move your mouse to the area of the expected ';body'; of the message and right-click...on
the menu that appears, click on ';Encoding';...on the menu that appears, if ';Auto Select';
has a check mark, leave it as is...if not click ';Auto Select';; then this menu will
disappear...right click again in the ';body'; to cause the same menu to display again...then
click on ';Western European (Windows)';...you should now be able to view the ';body'; of
all messages that you couldn't view before...obviously, if the problem somehow occurs
again, do the same procedure described above again. I have no idea how or why these
settings get ';changed'; or ';corrupted'; after everyday use, but apparently they sometimes
do.Can someone advise me about why there is a blank page between my header %26amp; footnote?
Somehow the procedure that retrieves your email messages from the Yahoo servers is being interrupted, so the message hasn't fully loaded. It loads the header, but not the body of the message. If you were to wait a while, the message would likely load... eventually... but typically the connection 'times out' before that can happen.
You could try closing the message and reopening it to force the page to reload. Or wait till a time of day when the internet isn't so busy. You may have better luck then.
Try Print copy = It will show the message.
OR Click Reply button to the message. Then when read click the back button.
OR Put the message in Word or Excell and read it.
OR = Select any email where the header information is displayed, but there is nothing in the
';body'; of the message where you would expect to find text, etc.
Move your mouse to the area of the expected ';body'; of the message and right-click...on
the menu that appears, click on ';Encoding';...on the menu that appears, if ';Auto Select';
has a check mark, leave it as is...if not click ';Auto Select';; then this menu will
disappear...right click again in the ';body'; to cause the same menu to display again...then
click on ';Western European (Windows)';...you should now be able to view the ';body'; of
all messages that you couldn't view before...obviously, if the problem somehow occurs
again, do the same procedure described above again. I have no idea how or why these
settings get ';changed'; or ';corrupted'; after everyday use, but apparently they sometimes
do.Can someone advise me about why there is a blank page between my header %26amp; footnote?
Somehow the procedure that retrieves your email messages from the Yahoo servers is being interrupted, so the message hasn't fully loaded. It loads the header, but not the body of the message. If you were to wait a while, the message would likely load... eventually... but typically the connection 'times out' before that can happen.
You could try closing the message and reopening it to force the page to reload. Or wait till a time of day when the internet isn't so busy. You may have better luck then.
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